Recently I had a conversation with a friend about a father’s role in homeschooling, especially a father whose job requires him to be away several hours a day. Her view is that a father doesn’t have much of a role in homeschooling, other than being supportive of the idea. I don’t agree, but, I was at a loss for words as to why exactly I didn’t agree.
Do you have any articles you could send me that address a father’s role in homeschooling (and, again, from a personal perspective, my husband’s job and my friend’s husband’s job are time consuming with occasional travel)? I would be honored to receive any insights from you! And if you have not written an article to this effect — perhaps I’ve sparked an idea
Your friend shortchanges herself by deciding that the fatherâ€™s role is merely of a bread-winning nature.Â What exactly does she mean by â€œbeing supportiveâ€ of the idea.
The fatherâ€™s role in the family is closely tied with his role in the homeschool, since both are inextricably joined (or at least should be).Â Christian education is not one choice among many for the believer; it is a command of God.Â If the family chooses to obey that command in the context of a homeschool, then if the father is not the head of the school, he has abdicated his God-give role.Â Should a mother want to usurp that role, she (and her homeschooling endeavors) are headed for trouble.
I would suggest you have this woman read my books, if she hasnâ€™t already done so.Â They are intended to convey a homeschooling mindset (Lessons Learned from Years of Homeschooling and The Homeschool Life) and a family mindset (The Biblical Trustee Family).
It doesnâ€™t really change the dynamic if the fatherâ€™s job calls him to be away during the day or sometimes travel.Â The way we dealt with this in our home was as a result of my husband understanding that his authority came from God and my authority was derived from him.Â In our household, if the kids disobeyed him, there would be trouble.Â But, if they disobeyed me in his absence, there would be more trouble. He let them know that just because he wasnâ€™t present, didnâ€™t mean that he wasnâ€™t going to keep them accountable.Â After all, we donâ€™t see God in the flesh, but that doesnâ€™t negate or nullify his jurisdiction over us.
I hope this answer helps.Â If I havenâ€™t answered to your satisfaction, write again or give me a call.